Lyudmila Nyagolova is a student at Humber College’s social and digital media program.
Tuesday October 6, 2015
Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about creating memories with your loved one and enjoying each other’s company. However the hype around this holiday has made it a nightmare for most. I have had my fair share of stressful Valentine’s Days so I have made it my mission to help guys and girls stress less and enjoy the moment. Before we get into further details. I need to clarify with everyone that Valentines day is not supposed to be a girls holiday. Both guys and girls should be putting in effort to make this day special for the both of you. With that said lets begin.
The most important tip I have is the importance of preplanning. I cannot stress this enough, as the days get closer everything will get more and more expensive. Not to mention preplanning will save you tremendous amounts of stress and time. How many of you have found yourself days before Valentines Day freaking out over getting a gift and trying to make dinner date plans? When you stress out you end up being miserable during your date and it diminishes the purpose of the whole holiday. Make yourself a budget for all your expenses at least a full month ahead, preferably two. Then figure out how you will acquire the funds you need for the expenses and if your budget is reasonable; adjust where needed. Once you have figured out your budget and funding availability you can start slowly checking things off your list, which will make your life so much easier come February.
Society puts so much pressure on giving the perfect Valentines Day gift, especially on men. Gifting for Valentines Day does not need to be unreasonable. In fact the point of Valentines Day is to show your partner how much you care not how much you can spend; it’s the thought that counts. DIY gifts are perfect for Valentines Day because it really shows your special someone the amount of effort and thought you have put into this day for them. Depending on how long the two of you have been together will affect the type of gift you are going to give. If this is a fairly new relationship give your significant other a handmade card expressing how happy you are because of them and how grateful you are for this new adventure. If you have been together for a longer period of time, grab one of those Dollar Store wooden boxes, paint it and fill it with pictures and memories the two of you have shared over time. Think outside the box with your gifting; make it meaningful to your partner, think about what they love and incorporate it into your gift. If they love to read, print some passages out of their favorite books that relate to your relationship or how you feel about the person.
Baking is a really cute way to show your love to your special someone and it helps to get into the spirit of the holiday. There are so many great recipes and ideas online for Valentine’s baking. This holiday capitalizes on your inability to get creative, that’s why a box of chocolate that’s normally sold for $10 is now suddenly $35. Don’t fall into that trap, spend to $10 and make your partner some cute cupcakes, brownies or whatever you like. They don’t have to be pretty or bakery perfect but they just need to be from the heart; your partner will appreciate the effort so much more.
Making date-night plans usually ends up being the most difficult for this holiday because like everything else, it’s all overpriced. Instead of taking your special someone out for dinner, take the time to make him or her a dinner at home, or better yet plan to make dinner together. Having a date night at home can be incredibly romantic; you can decorate a space for the two of you in so many different ways. You can arrange a romantic table setting and show off your awesome cooking skills, or throw some pillows and blankets on the floor by the fireplace and make a fondue with fruits and chocolate. Get creative and get romantic. It’s so much more affordable yet so much more meaningful because no amount of money can buy effort, and effort means everything.
I know a lot of people dislike V-Day because of the pressure it puts on relationships, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Although you should be showing your love to each other everyday, it is nice to have a day to dedicate just to your love, so embrace it. What are some things you have done in the past or plan on doing, to make this day special without breaking the bank?