Stephanie Ahlborn. First year student studying bachelor of public relations at Humber. She is interested in learning more about discrimination and inequality against women.
I recently watched a Ted Talk called, “Why gender equality is good for everyone, men included.” by Michael Kimmel. He raised some interesting points that I never considered until I watched his talk.
Gender inequality is a subject that women have been fighting against for centuries. That is a fact. However, it seems that we have been missing something extremely vital to creating a world that is free of inequality; we need the men on our side. It is the right time and the right generation to recruit young men to support gender equality.
Kimmel asks, why shouldn’t we all support gender equality? Its fair, right and just, but even more than that, gender equality is not only in the interest of women, but of men as well.
When we ask men what they want out of life and what they want from their partners, what do they say? Men want to have lives that are fulfilling, they want to have terrific relationships with their spouses and children. Many men these days expect women to work outside the home and be just as committed to their careers as they are to their families. But how do couples ensure that both partners are happy? By sharing the work. Share the housework, and the childcare.
Kimmel reported that data taken over a long period of time shows how significant their role is as a father. When men share house work and child care, their kids do better in school, they have fewer absences at school and higher rates of achievement. They are less likely to be diagnosed with ADHD, less likely to see a child psychiatrist and less likely to be put on prescription medication.
When house work and child care is shared, women are obviously much happier. Not only is the load of the physical stress being lifted, but the emotional stress feels lighter. The wife is in a better mental state and is less likely to go see a therapist, develop depression and be put on prescription medication.
Kimmel claims this data also suggests that when men share house work and child care, surprisingly enough, the men are also happier and healthier. They are less likely to smoke and drink, take recreational drugs and are more likely to go to their doctor for routine checkups. Men are also less likely to see a therapist, to be diagnosed with depression and to be on prescription medication.
When men share housework and child care, the couples have sex more often! So it seems that when the workload is shared properly, there is a higher level of marital satisfaction.
The women and men are healthier and happier and as a result the children are healthier and happier. Gender equality is a way for people to get the life they want to live, a life that creates more equal opportunities for both partners and any children they may have.
It is plain to see how just in our intimate relationships and families, gender equality is a win-win situation.
Women have been fighting for equal rights for a very long time and no one knows how long it will be until a point is reached when we no longer have to discuss issues that deal with women’s rights and freedoms. Kimmels Ted talk opened my eyes to a new and interesting way of looking at equality.
Kimmel believes we cannot fully empower women and girls unless we engage boys and men. We cannot do this without each other. Men want and need the things that women have identified that they need to live the lives they want to live.
If we all chip in and create an more open and equal world, wouldn’t we all be happier?
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